Apr 24

The Antidote

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I’ve noticed that many clients repeatedly stop themselves in the same way. One of my clients finds himself severely overworked and is also in danger of missing critical deadlines. Yet he seems to dawdle intentionally, falling into the distracting pleasures of the Internet. Another one is seriously out of work; she gets jobs and loses them within a week.

I found the same symptom in myself. I’d become very overweight and was being coached to slim down and I noticed this insane symptom: “I broke my diet, therefore I have to eat.” Hello?!

I know it hurts. It hurts so bad we don’t want to forgive. The pain is unbearable at times and all we really want to do is get revenge, or keep wallowing in the pain that our feelings give us and remain resentful and angry. This is such a common problem in marriage today, so I feel it is worth more than rubies and gold to keep writing about it.

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